People who have never been in abusive relation ships often wonder,why does she,or he still want to be with so and ao?why wont she get out?shes crazy,she has kids,her life is in danger.The lis goes on and on,but the truth is,people who have been abused are usually abused in more then one area.When your spycologically abused,it retards your thinking ability.your no longer thinking in concrete terms,your thinking in fantacy.Thinking how things were,and how maby things can be if he would just change!!!!In my own openion,the abused really is in love with the fantacy more then the abuser its self.Think about it for a moment,when an abused person gets asked the question,why do you still love him,often the abused will bring up about a quality that the abuser displayed in the beginning of their courtship.We often say,he never usto be like this.At that point,we are no longer living in te moment,we are living in the past....and trying to alter the reality by creating this fantacy out come.I know because ive been her before.And ive met and talked to many more that has experienced even greater pain then i did.It is my own personal belief that,one we become psycologically mentally stable,we can began to make a clear distinguish in our own situation of the reality that were living in,and the one that maby were tring to percieve.
